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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on August 08, 2015, 05:19:45 PM »
August 8 , 2015

Responsible recovery

“...we accept responsibility for our problems and see that we’re equally responsible for our solutions.”

Basic Text, p. 94

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Some of us, well accustomed to leaving our personal responsibilities to others, may attempt the same behavior in recovery.  We quickly find out it doesn’t work.

For instance, we are considering making a change in our lives, so we call our sponsor and ask what we should do.  Under the guise of seeking direction, we are actually asking our sponsor to assume responsibility for making decisions about our life.  Or maybe we’ve been short with someone at a meeting, so we ask that person’s best friend to make our apologies for us.  Perhaps we’ve imposed on a friend several times in the last month to cover our service commitment.  Could it be that we’ve asked a friend to analyze our behavior and identify our shortcomings, rather than taking our own personal inventory?

Recovery is something that has to be worked for.  It isn’t going to be handed to us on a silver platter, nor can we expect our friends or our sponsor to be responsible for the work we must do ourselves.  We recover by making our own decisions, doing our own service, and working our own steps.  By doing it for ourselves, we receive the rewards.

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Just for today:  I accept responsibility for my life and my recovery.

Copyright © 1991-2015 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on August 08, 2015, 05:18:49 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote     8/8/15


Our lives become very different once we learn to magnify our blessings the way we have our troubles.

What I think about enlarges. Am I enlarging my blessings or my troubles?
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on August 07, 2015, 10:32:13 PM »
August 7 , 2015

The gratitude list

“We focus on anything that isn’t going our way and ignore all the beauty in our lives.”

Basic Text, p. 77

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It’s easy to be grateful when everything runs smoothly.  If we get a raise at work, we’re grateful.  If we get married, we’re grateful.  If someone surprises us with a nice present or an unasked favor, we’re grateful.  But if we get fired, divorced, or disappointed, gratitude flies out the window.  We find ourselves becoming obsessed with the things that are wrong, even though everything else may be wonderful.

This is where we can use a gratitude list.  We sit down with a pen and paper and list the people for whom we are grateful.  We all have people who’ve supported us through life’s upheavals.  We list the spiritual assets we have attained, for we know we could never make it through our present circumstances without them.  Last, but not least, we list our recovery itself.  Whatever we have that we are grateful for goes on the list.

We’re sure to find that we have literally hundreds of things in our lives that inspire our gratitude.  Even those of us who are suffering from an illness or who have lost all material wealth will find blessings of a spiritual nature for which we can be thankful.  An awakening of the spirit is the most valuable gift an addict can receive.

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Just for today:  I will write a list of things, both material and spiritual, for which I am grateful.

Copyright © 1991-2015 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on August 07, 2015, 10:31:04 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote     8/7/15


Who knows why they are chemically dependent? The answer will not change the fact, and yet many continue to question, why? Indeed, they need an answer, but they are asking the wrong question. The real question is, 'How can I become free? Free of the fear. Free of the pain. Free of the bondage.

I do not receive the right answer when I ask the wrong question.
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on August 06, 2015, 06:47:48 PM »

August 6 , 2015

The joy within

“Since the beginning of our recovery, we have found that joy doesn’t come from material things but from within ourselves.”

Basic Text, p. 107

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Some of us came to Narcotics Anonymous impoverished by our disease.  Everything we’d owned had been lost to our addiction.  Once we got clean, we put all our energy into recovering our material possessions, only to feel even more dissatisfied with our lives than before.

Other members have sought to ease their emotional pain with material things.  A potential date has rejected us?  Let’s buy something.  The dog has died?  Let’s go to the mall.  Problem is, emotional fulfillment can’t be bought, not even on an easy installment plan.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with material things.  They can make life more convenient or more luxurious, but they can’t fix us.  Where, then, can true joy be found?  We know; the answer is within ourselves.

When have we found joy?  When we’ve offered ourselves in service to others, without expectation of reward.  We’ve found true warmth in the fellowship of others—not only in NA, but in our families, our relationships, and our communities.  And we’ve found the surest source of satisfaction in our conscious contact with our God.  Inner peace, a sure sense of direction, and emotional security do not come from material things, but from within.

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Just for today:  True joy can’t be bought.  I will seek my joy in service, in fellowship, in my Higher Power—I will seek within.

Copyright © 1991-2015 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on August 06, 2015, 06:46:36 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote      8/6/15


Before our recovery we used people and loved things and given recovery we learn to love people and use things. Things are not important, people are.

I treat others the way I would be treated.
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on August 04, 2015, 08:30:35 PM »
August 4 , 2015

When is a secret not a secret?

“Addicts tend to live secret lives....  It is a great relief to get rid of all our secrets and to share the burden of our past.”

Basic Text, p. 32

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We’ve heard it said that “we’re as sick as our secrets.”  What do we keep secret, and why?

We keep secret those things that cause us shame.  We may hold onto such things because we don’t want to surrender them.  Yet if they’re causing us shame, wouldn’t we live more easily with ourselves if we were rid of them?

Some of us hold onto the things that cause us shame for another reason.  It’s not that we don’t want to be rid of them; we just don’t believe we can be rid of them.  They’ve plagued us for so long, and we’ve tried so many times to rid ourselves of them, that we’ve stopped hoping for relief.  Yet still they shame us, and still we keep them secret.

We need to remember who we are: recovering addicts.  We who tried so long to keep our drug use a secret have found freedom from the obsession and compulsion to use.  Though many of us enjoyed using right to the end, we sought recovery anyway.  We just couldn’t stand the toll our using was taking on us.  When we admitted our powerlessness and sought help from others, the burden of our secret was lifted from us.

The same principle applies to whatever secrets may burden us.  Yes, we’re as sick as our secrets.  Only when our secrets stop being secret can we begin to find relief from those things that cause us shame.

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Just for today:  My secrets can make me sick only as long as they stay secret.  Today, I will talk with my sponsor about my secrets.

Copyright © 1991-2015 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on August 04, 2015, 08:29:10 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote              8/4/15


You will be receiving many gifts from people in the programs: gifts of help, time, energy, possibly money, talents, and knowledge. You will never be able to pay them all back. You are not obligated to pay them back. You are obligated to pay them forward by giving away what you have when you can.

I appreciate the generosity of others and pay it forward when I am able.
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on August 03, 2015, 03:16:39 PM »
August 3 , 2015

Trusting people

“Many of us would have had nowhere else to go if we could not have trusted NA groups and members.”

Basic Text, p. 81

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Trusting people is a risk.  Human beings are notoriously forgetful, unreliable, and imperfect.  Most of us come from backgrounds where betrayal and insensitivity among friends were common occurrences.  Even our most reliable friends weren’t very reliable.  By the time we arrive at the doors of NA, most of us have hundreds of experiences bearing out our conviction that people are untrustworthy.  Yet our recovery demands that we trust people.  We are faced with this dilemma:  People are not always trustworthy, yet we must trust them.  How do we do that, given the evidence of our pasts?

First, we remind ourselves that the rules of active addiction don’t apply in recovery.  Most of our fellow members are doing their level best to live by the spiritual principles we learn in the program.  Second, we remind ourselves that we aren’t 100% reliable, either.  We will surely disappoint someone in our lives, no matter how hard we try not to.  Third, and most importantly, we realize that we need to trust our fellow members of NA.  Our lives are at stake, and the only way we can stay clean is to trust these well-intentioned folks who, admittedly, aren’t perfect.

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Just for today:  I will trust my fellow members.  Though certainly not perfect, they are my best hope.

Copyright © 1991-2015 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on August 03, 2015, 03:15:41 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote      8/3/15


Our feelings don't define us, our actions do. We are not bad because we have a quick temper--but we learn that expressing that anger hurts others. The longer we keep our temper the more it improves.

I am only as big as the smallest thing that makes me angry.
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