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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on Today at 06:21:45 PM »

April 1 , 2015

Love and addiction

“Some of us first saw the effects of addiction on the people closest to us.  We were very dependent on them to carry us through life.  We felt angry, disappointed, and hurt when they found other interests, friends, and loved ones.”

Basic Text, p. 7

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Addiction affected every area of our lives.  Just as we sought the drug that would make everything alright, so we sought people to fix us.  We made impossible demands, driving away those who had anything of worth to offer us.  Often, the only people left were those who were themselves too needy to be capable of denying our unrealistic expectations.  It’s no wonder that we were unable to establish and maintain healthy intimate relationships in our addiction.

Today, in recovery, we’ve stopped expecting drugs to fix us.  If we still expect people to fix us, perhaps it’s time to extend our recovery program to our relationships.  We begin by admitting we have a problem—that we don’t know the first thing about how to have healthy intimate relationships.  We seek out members who’ve had similar problems and have found relief.  We talk with them and listen to what they share about this aspect of their recovery.  We apply the program to all our affairs, seeking the same kind of freedom in our relationships that we find throughout our recovery.

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Just for today:  Loving relationships are within my reach.  Today, I will examine the effects of addiction on my relationships so that I can begin seeking recovery.

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on Today at 06:20:43 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote     4/1/15


The best remedy for anger is delay.

I don't use my 'claws when agitated,' I learn to 'pause when agitated.'
(P 87, AA Big Book)
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Elder's Meditation of the Day
« Last post by CD on Today at 06:19:56 PM »
Elder's Meditation of the Day       April 1 , 2015
"People think other things are more important than prayer, but they are mistaken."   
--Thomas Yellowtail, CROW
An Elder once said the most important thing you can do in the course of a day is to pray. If we get up late or oversleep, which is more important? Rush to work without praying or pray first and then go to work? The Elders say it's more important to pray. If we get angry, should we act on our anger or should we pray first? The Elders say it's more important to pray first. If, during the day, we face indecision, what should we do? PRAY. If, during the day, we become irritated or we experience fear, what should we do first? PRAY. The Warrior who prays first will lead a different life from those who pray last.
Great Spirit, teach me to pray first!
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Wednesday, April 1, 2015
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Going Easy

Go easy. You may have to push forward, but you don't have to push so hard. Go in gentleness - go in peace.

Do not be in so much of a hurry. At no day, no hour, no time are you required to do more than you can do in peace.

Frantic behaviors and urgency are not the foundation for our new way of life.

Do not be in too much of a hurry to begin. Begin, but do not force the beginning if it is not time. Beginnings will arrive soon enough.

Enjoy and relish middles, the heart of the matter.

Do not be in too much of a hurry to finish. You may be almost done, but enjoy the final moments. Give yourself fully to those moments so that you may give and get all there is.

Let the pace flow naturally. Move forward. Start. Keep moving forward. Do it gently, though. Do it in peace. Cherish each moment.

Today, God, help me focus on a peaceful pace rather than a harried one. I will keep moving forward gently, not frantically. Help me let go of my need to be anxious, upset, and harried. Help me replace it with a need to be a peace and in harmony.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of the publisher.
 
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on March 31, 2015, 05:55:17 PM »

March 31 , 2015

Insides and outsides

“Our real value is in being ourselves.”

Basic Text, p. 105

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As we work the steps, we’re bound to discover some basic truths about ourselves.  The process of uncovering our secrets, exposing them, and searching our characters reveals our true nature.  As we become acquainted with ourselves, we’ll need to make a decision to be just who we are.

We may want to take a look at what we present to our fellow addicts and the world and see if it matches up with what we’ve discovered inside.  Do we pretend that nothing bothers us when, in truth, we’re very sensitive?  Do we cover our insecurities with obnoxious jokes, or do we share our fears with someone?  Do we dress like a teenager when we’re approaching forty and are basically conservative?

We may want to take another look at those things which we thought “weren’t us.”  Maybe we’ve avoided NA activities because we “don’t like crowds.” Or maybe we have a secret dream of changing careers but have put off taking action because our dream “wasn’t really right” for us.  As we attain a new understanding of ourselves, we’ll want to adjust our behavior accordingly.  We want to be genuine examples of who we are.

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Just for today:  I will check my outsides to make sure they match my insides.  I will try to act on the growth I have experienced in recovery.

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on March 31, 2015, 05:54:17 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote      3/31/2015


The person you were will use again. That is why you must 'smash all your old ideas so that the new you is a member of the program, not the person you were. The person you were was a practicing alcoholic. The person you are is not.

Some people say that the 12 Steps brain wash us. Thank God, because that's how I got clean!
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Elder's Meditation of the Day
« Last post by CD on March 31, 2015, 05:53:05 PM »
Elder's Meditation of the Day               March 31 , 2015
"The old Lakota was wise. He knew that man's heart away from nature becomes hard; he knew the lack of respect for growing, living things soon led to a lack of respect for humans too. So he kept his youth close to its softening influence."   
--Luther Standing Bear, OGLALA SIOUX
When we live in nature it's like constantly being in school. We are in an environment that is always teaching. We are constantly being reminded hat there are laws, Natural Laws, which are running the universe. Once we know these laws and we drift from them, we start to live our lives in a different way. Soon we become discontent, selfish, and disrespectful. Then, we get in trouble. If our lives have become this way, it can be reversed by going back to nature to be among our teachers.
Great Spirit, teach men, again, the Natural Laws.
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Tuesday, March 31, 2015
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Finances

Taking financial responsibility for ourselves is part of recovery. Some of us may find ourselves in hard financial times for a variety of reasons.

Our recovery concepts, including the Steps, work on money issues and restoring manageability to that area of our life. Make appropriate amends -- even if that means tackling a $5,000 debt by sending in $5 a month.

Start where you are, with what you've got. As with other issues, acceptance and gratitude turn what we have into more.

Money issues are not a good place to "act as if." Don't write checks until the money is in the bank. Don't spend money until you've got it in your hand.

If there is too little money to survive, use the appropriate resources available without shame.

Set goals.

Believe you deserve the best, financially.

Believe God cares about your finances.

Let go of your fear, and trust.

Today, I will focus on taking responsibility for my present financial circumstances, no matter how overwhelming that area of my life may feel and be.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of the publisher.
 
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on March 30, 2015, 06:49:23 PM »

March 30 , 2015

God-centeredness

“Gradually, as we become more God-centered than self-centered, our despair turns to hope.”

Basic Text, p. 95

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What a glorious thing to have hope!  Before coming to Narcotics Anonymous, many of us lived lives of utter hopelessness.  We believed we were destined to die from our disease.

Many members speak of being on a “pink cloud” their first months in the program.  We’ve stopped using, made some friends, and life looks promising.  Things are going great.  Then reality sets in.  Life is still life—we still lose jobs, our partners still leave us, friends still die, we still get sick.  Abstinence is no guarantee that life will always go our way.

When the reality of life on its own terms sets in, we turn to our Higher Power and remember that life happens the way life happens.  But no matter what occurs in our recovery we need not despair, for there is always hope.  That hope lies in our relationship with our Higher Power.

This relationship, as expressed by the thought in our text, develops over time:  “Gradually, we become more God-centered.”  As we rely more and more on the strength of our Higher Power, life’s struggles don’t have to drag us into the sea of despair.  As we focus more on God, we focus less on ourselves.

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Just for today:  I will rely on my Higher Power.  I will accept that, regardless of what happens, my Higher Power will provide me with the resources to live with it.

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on March 29, 2015, 05:30:30 PM »

March 29 , 2015

Our own true will

“...God’s will for us consists of the very things we most value.  God’s will... becomes our own true will for ourselves.”

Basic Text, p. 48

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It’s human nature to want something for nothing.  We may be ecstatic when a store cashier gives us back change for a twenty though we only paid with a ten.  We tend to think that, if no one knows, one small deception won’t make any difference.  But someone does know—we do.  And it does make a difference.

What worked for us when we used frequently doesn’t work long in recovery.  As we progress spiritually by working the Twelve Steps, we begin to develop new values and standards.  We begin to feel uncomfortable when we take advantage of situations that, when we used, would have left us gloating about what we had gotten away with.

In the past, we may have victimized others.  However, as we draw closer to our Higher Power, our values change.  God’s will becomes more important than getting away with something.

When our values change, our lives change, too.  Guided by an inner knowledge given us by our Higher Power, we want to live out our newfound values.  We have internalized our Higher Power’s will for us—in fact, God’s will has become our own true will for ourselves.

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Just for today:  By improving my conscious contact with God, my values have changed.  Today, I will practice God’s will, my own true will.

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