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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on Today at 03:33:04 PM »

March 6 , 2015

Rationalizing away our recovery

“As a result of the Twelve Steps, I’m not able to hold on to old ways of deceiving myself.”

 

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We all rationalize.  Sometimes we know we are rationalizing, admit we are rationalizing, yet continue to behave according to our rationalizations!  Recovery can become very painful when we decide that, for one reason or another, the simple principles of the program don’t apply to us.

With the help of our sponsor and others in NA, we can begin to look at the excuses we use for our behavior.  Do we find that some principles just don’t apply to us?  Do we believe that we know more than everyone else in Narcotics Anonymous, even those who have been clean for many years?  What makes us think that we’re so special?

There is no doubt, we can successfully rationalize our way through part of our recovery.  But, eventually, we must squarely face the truth and start acting accordingly.  The principles in the Twelve Steps guide us to a new life in recovery.  There is little room for rationalization there.

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Just for today:  I cannot work the steps and also continue deceiving myself.  I will examine my thinking for rationalizations, reveal them to my sponsor, and be rid of them.

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on Today at 03:31:56 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote     3/6/15


You certainly are not good at every aspect of service to your group. You may be good at opening meetings, emptying ash trays, remembering to contact people, or going out on Twelve Step calls. Maybe you are lousy at greeting people at the door, holding office, getting birthday cakes, or paying the rent. Whatever you lack skills for, others can pick up; whatever you are good at, recognize!

For my shortcomings, I delegate; for my strengths, I congratulate.
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Elder's Meditation of the Day
« Last post by CD on Today at 03:30:48 PM »
Elder's Meditation of the Day       March 6,2015
"And there are Four Corners of the Earth that we talk about, the Four Colors of people, and the Four Winds. You see the winds - they are spirits."   
--Grandfather William Commanda, ALGONQUIN
The Elders teach us about the four directions. If we learn about direction, we also learn about attention, about focus, and about power. Each direction has spiritual power. In the morning, go outside, face the east and get still; then, listen to your thoughts. After you have done this for a while, turn and face the west. Get quiet once again and listen to your thoughts. Did your thinking change when you changed direction?
Great Spirit, teach me the power of the four directions.
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Friday, March 6, 2015
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Peace

Anxiety is often our first reaction to conflict, problems, or even our own fears. In those moments, detaching and getting peaceful may seem disloyal or apathetic. We think: If I really care, I'll worry; if this is really important to me, I must stay upset. We convince ourselves that outcomes will be positively affected by the amount of time we spend worrying.

Our best problem-solving resource is peace. Solutions arise easily and naturally out of a peaceful state. Often, fear and anxiety block solutions. Anxiety gives power to the problem, not the solution. It does not help to harbor turmoil. It does not help.

Peace is available if we choose it. In spite of chaos and unsolved problems around us, all is well. Things will work out. We can surround ourselves with the resources of the Universe: water, earth, a sunset, a walk, a prayer, a friend. We can relax and let ourselves feel peace.

Today, I will let go of my need to stay in turmoil. I will cultivate peace and trust that timely solutions and goodness will arise naturally and harmoniously out of the wellspring of peace. I will consciously let go and let God.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of the publisher.
 
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on March 05, 2015, 05:04:51 PM »
March 5 , 2015

From rude awakening to spiritual awakening

“When a need arises for us to admit our powerlessness, we may first look for ways to exert power against it.  After exhausting these ways, we begin sharing with others and find hope.”

Basic Text, p. 82

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We’ve sometimes heard it said in our meetings that “rude awakenings lead to spiritual awakenings.”  What kind of rude awakenings do we have in recovery?  Such an awakening might occur when some undesirable bit of our behavior that we thought safely hidden away is suddenly revealed for all the world to see.  Or our sponsor might provoke such an awakening by informing us that, just like everyone else, we have to work the steps if we expect to stay clean and recover.

Most of us hate to have our covers pulled; we don’t like being laid naked in full view.  The experience delivers a strong dose of humility.  Our first reaction to such a disclosure is usually shock and anger, yet we recognize the truth when we hear it.  What we are having is a rude awakening.

Such awakenings often disclose barriers that block us from making spiritual progress in our recovery.  Once those barriers are exposed, we can work the steps to begin removing them from our lives.  We can begin experiencing the healing and serenity which are the preludes to a renewed awakening of the spirit.

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Just for today:  I will recognize the rude awakenings I have as opportunities to grow toward spiritual awakening.

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on March 05, 2015, 05:03:39 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote      3/5/15


He who laughs, lasts! 'But why shouldn't we laugh? We have recovered.
 (P 132, AA Big Book)

My laughter is good medicine.
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Elder's Meditation of the Day
« Last post by CD on March 05, 2015, 05:02:33 PM »
Elder's Meditation of the Day          March 5 , 2015
"I have always searched for my place and my people."   
--Wendy Rose, HOPI/MIWOK
For every human being to feel connected, we must have the feeling of belonging. That is one of the values and benefits of a culture: it creates the feeling of belonging. If for some reason, while you were growing up, you did not develop the feeling of belonging, a search will be triggered and a restlessness will be present in your heart. You will have a hole inside you, something missing, until you find your place and your people. Remember, we can get this feeling of belonging when we realize we belong to the Great Spirit and that He really loves us a lot.
My Creator, today, I belong to You. Let me feel Your presence. Thank You.
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Thursday, March 5, 2015
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Be Who You Are
When I meet people or get in a new relationship, I start putting all these repressive restrictions on myself. I can't have my feelings. Can't have my wants and needs. Can't have my history. Can't do the things I want, feel the feelings I'm feeling, or say what I need to say. I turn into this repressed, perfectionistic robot, instead of being who I am: Me.
—Anonymous

Sometimes, our instinctive reaction to being in a new situation is: Don't be yourself.

Who else can we be? Who else would you want to be? We don't need to be anyone else.

The greatest gift we can bring to any relationship wherever we go is being who we are.

We may think others won't like us. We may be afraid that if we just relax and be ourselves, the other person will go away or shame us. We may worry about what the other person will think.

But, when we relax and accept ourselves, people often feel much better being around us than when we are rigid and repressed. We're fun to be around.

If others don't appreciate us, do we really want to be around them? Do we need to let the opinions of others control our behavior and us?

Giving ourselves permission to be who we are can have a healing influence on our relationships. The tone relaxes. We relax. The other person relaxes. Then everybody feels a little less shame, because they have learned the truth. Who we are is all we can be, all were meant to be, and it's enough. It's fine.

Our opinion of ourselves is truly all that matters. And we can give ourselves all the approval we want and need.

Today, I will relax and be who I am in my relationships. I will do this not in a demeaning or inappropriate way, but in a way that shows I accept myself and value who I am. Help me, God, let go of my fears about being myself.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of the publisher.
 
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on March 04, 2015, 04:30:54 PM »
March 4 , 2015

The process

“This program has become a part of me....  I understand more clearly the things that are happening in my life today.  I no longer fight the process.”

Basic Text, p. 127

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In active addiction, things happened seemingly without rhyme or reason.  We just “did things,” often without knowing why or what the results would be.  Life had little value or meaning.

The Twelve-Step process gives meaning to our lives; in working the steps, we come to accept both the dark and the bright sides of ourselves.  We strip away the denial that kept us from comprehending addiction’s affect on us.  We honestly examine ourselves, picking out the patterns in our thoughts, our feelings, and our behavior.  We gain humility and perspective by fully disclosing ourselves to another human being.  In seeking to have our shortcomings removed, we develop a working appreciation of our own powerlessness and the strength provided by a Power greater than we are.  With our enhanced understanding of ourselves, we gain greater insight into and acceptance of others.

The Twelve Steps are the key to a process we call “life.”  In working the steps, they become a part of us—and we become a part of the life around us.  Our world is no longer meaningless; we understand more about what happens in our lives today.  We no longer fight the process.  Today, in working the steps, we live it.

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Just for today:  Life is a process; the Twelve Steps are the key.  Today, I will use the steps to participate in that process, understanding and enjoying myself and my recovery.

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Copyright © 1991-2015 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on March 04, 2015, 04:29:14 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote    3/4/15


There are no victims, only volunteers. When we cry, 'They did this to me. They did that to me.' what we are really saying, is I placed myself in a position for this or that to happen. I volunteered for it.

I volunteer for sobriety today.
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