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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on September 18, 2014, 04:18:15 PM »
September , 18, 2014

Honest relationships

“One of the most profound changes in our lives is in the realm of personal relationships.”

Basic Text, p. 57

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Recovery gives many of us relationships that are closer and more intimate than any we’ve had before.  As time passes, we find ourselves gravitating toward those who eventually become our friends, our sponsor, and our partners in life.  Shared laughter, tears, and struggles bring shared respect and lasting empathy.

What, then, do we do when we find that we don’t agree with our friends on everything?  We may discover that we don’t share the same taste in music as our dearest friend, or that we don’t agree with our spouse about how the furniture should be arranged, or even find ourselves voting differently from our sponsor at a service committee meeting.  Does conflict mean that the friendship, the marriage, or the sponsorship is over?  No!

These types of conflict are not only to be expected in any long-lasting relationship but are actually an indication that both people are emotionally healthy and honest individuals.  In any relationship where both people agree on absolutely everything, chances are that only one person is doing the thinking.  If we sacrifice our honesty and integrity to avoid conflicts or disagreements, we give away the best of what we bring to our relationships.  We experience the full measure of partnership with another human being when we are fully honest.

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Just for today:  I will welcome the differences that make each one of us special.  Today, I will work on being myself.

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on September 18, 2014, 04:16:41 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote      9/18/14


Whether you pray, petition, plead, protest, prod, or praise your Spiritual Source, whether you sing songs of gratitude or whisper words of doubt, this is prayer.

Got prayer?
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Elder's Meditation of the Day
« Last post by CD on September 18, 2014, 04:14:53 PM »
Elder's Meditation of the Day       September 18,2014
"I walk in and out of many worlds."   
--Joy Harjo, CREEK/CHEROKEE
In my mind are many dwellings. Each of the dwellings we create ourselves - the house of anger, the house of despair, the house of self pity, the house of indifference, the house of negative, the house of positive, the house of hope, the house of joy, the house of peace, the house of enthusiasm, the house of cooperation, the house of giving. Each of these houses we visit each day. We can stay in any house for as long as we want. We can leave these mental houses any time we wish. We create the dwelling, we stay in the dwelling, we leave the dwelling whenever we wish. We can create new rooms, new houses. Whenever we enter these dwellings, this becomes our world until we leave for another. What world will we live in today?
Creator, no one can determine which dwelling I choose to enter. No one has the power to do so, only me. Let me choose wisely today.
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go.
« Last post by CD on September 18, 2014, 04:14:04 PM »
Thursday, September 18, 2014
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Letting the Good Stuff Happen

Before recovery, my relationships were lousy. I didn't do very well on my job. I was enmeshed in my dysfunctional family. But at least I knew what to expect!
  —Anonymous

I want the second half of my life to be as good as the first half was miserable. Sometimes, I'm afraid it won't be. Sometimes, I'm frightened it might be.

The good stuff can scare us. Change, even good change, can be frightening. In some ways, good changes can be more frightening than the hard times.

The past, particularly before recovery, may have become comfortably familiar. We knew what to expect in our relationships. They were predictable. They were repeats of the same pattern - the same behaviors, the same pain, over and over again. They may not have been what we wanted, but we knew what was going to happen.

This is not so when we change patterns and begins recovering.

We may have been fairly good at predicting events in most areas of our life. Relationships would be painful. We'd be deprived.

Each year would be almost a repeat of the last. Sometimes it got a little worse, sometimes a little better, but the change wasn't drastic. Not until the moment when we began recovery.

Then things changed. And the further we progress in this miraculous program, the more we and or circumstances change. We begin to explore uncharted territory.

Things get good. They do get better all the time. We begin to become successful in love, in work, in life. One day at a time, the good stuff begins to happen and the misery dissipates.

We no longer want to be a victim of life. We've learned to avoid unnecessary crisis and trauma.

Life gets good.

"How do I handle the good stuff?" asked one woman. It's harder and more foreign than the pain and tragedy."

"The same way we handled the difficult and the painful experiences," I replied. "One day at a time."

Today, God, help me let go of my need to be in pain and crisis. Help me move as swiftly as possible through sad feelings and problems. Help me find my base and balance in peace, joy, and gratitude. Help me work as hard at accepting what's good, as I have worked in the past at accepting the painful and the difficult.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of the publisher.
 
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on September 17, 2014, 06:14:03 PM »

September 17, 2014

Going beyond Step Five

“We may think that we have done enough by writing about our past.  We cannot afford this mistake.”

Basic Text, p. 32

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Some of us aren’t too keen on writing out our Fourth Step; others take it to an obsessive extreme.  To our sponsor’s growing dismay, we inventory ourselves again and again.  We discover everything there is to know about why we were the way we were.  We have the idea that thinking, writing, and talking about our past is enough.  We hear none of our sponsor’s suggestions to become entirely ready to have our defects removed or make amends for the harm we’ve caused.  We simply write more about those defects and delightedly share our fresh insights.  Finally, our worn-out sponsor withdraws from us in self-defense.

Extreme as this scenario may seem, many of us have found ourselves in just such a situation.  Thinking, writing, and talking about what was wrong with us made us feel like we had it all under control.  Sooner or later, however, we realized we were stuck in our problems, the solutions nowhere in sight.  We knew that, if we wanted to live differently, we would have to move on beyond Step Five in our program.  We began to seek the willingness to have a Higher Power remove the character defects of which we’d become so intensely aware.  We made amends for the destruction we had caused others in acting out on those defects.  Only then did we begin to experience the freedom of an awakening spirit.  Today, we’re no longer victims; we are free to move on in our recovery.

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Just for today:  Although necessary, Steps Four and Five alone will not bring about emotional and spiritual recovery.  I will take them, and then I will act on them.

 

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on September 17, 2014, 06:13:04 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote       9/17/14


Whatever vexes you currently, imagine for a moment what could make it worse. What can make it worse than that? Again. Imagine it, feel it, and come back to now. If you can make it worse, then you can make it better. Remember this: you are not helpless before your feelings.

I am stronger at what I'm doing, than my feelings are at what they're doing.
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Elder's Meditation of the Day
« Last post by CD on September 17, 2014, 06:11:51 PM »
Elder's Meditation of the Day September 17, 2014
"The old people must start talking and the young people must start listening."   
--Thomas Banyacya, HOPI
We are at a critical time in transferring cultural knowledge and spiritual ways. During the last few years the young people have not been interested in learning the old ways. The only place this knowledge is found is among the Elders. We must encourage the young to visit with the Elders. The adults need to think also about learning the culture. The Elders are getting old and soon will go to the other side. Each of us must pause and think about our individual responsibility to learn the culture and teach this to our young.
Great Spirit, help us to learn and remember the old ways.

 
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go.
« Last post by CD on September 17, 2014, 06:10:21 PM »
Wednesday, September 17, 2014
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
New Relationship Behaviors

We talk much about new relationship behaviors in recovery: allowing others to be themselves without over reacting and taking it personally, and owning our power to take care of ourselves. We talk about letting go of our need to control, focusing on self-responsibility, and not setting ourselves up to be victims by focusing on the other person while neglecting ourselves. We talk about having and setting healthy boundaries, talking directly, and taking responsibility for what we want and need.

While these behaviors certainly help us deal with addicted people, these are not behaviors intended only for use in what we call "dysfunctional relationships."

These behaviors are our new relationship behaviors. They help us in stressful relationships. They can help us get through times of stress in healthy relationships.

The recovery behaviors we are learning are tools - healthy relationship skills - that help us improve the quality of all our relationships.

Recovery means self-care - learning to take care of ourselves and love ourselves - with people. The healthier we become, the healthier our relationships will become. And we'll never outgrow our need for healthy behaviors.

Today, I will remember to apply my recovery behaviors in all my relationships - with friends and co-workers, as well as in any special love relationship. I will work hard at taking care of myself in the troublesome relationships, figuring out which skill might best apply. I will also consider ways that my healthy relationships might benefit from my new relationship skills.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of the publisher.
 
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on September 16, 2014, 01:56:01 PM »

September 16 , 2014

Emotional balance

“Emotional balance is one of the first results of meditation, and our experience bears this out.”

Basic Text, p.47

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Though each of us defines “emotional balance” a little differently, all of us must find it.  Emotional balance can mean finding and maintaining a positive outlook on life, regardless of what may be happening around us.  To some, it might mean an understanding of our emotions that allows us to respond, not react, to our feelings.  It can mean that we experience our feelings as intensely as we can while also moderating their excessive expression.

Emotional balance comes with practice in prayer and meditation.  We get quiet and share our thoughts and hopes and concerns with the God of our understanding.  Then we listen for guidance, awaiting the power to act on that direction.

Eventually, our skills in maintaining near-balance get better, and the wild up-and-down emotional swings we used to experience begin to settle.  We develop an ability to let others feel their feelings; we have no need to judge them.  And we fully embrace our own personal range of emotions.

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Just for today:  Through regular prayer and meditation, I will discover what emotional balance means to me.

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on September 16, 2014, 01:55:03 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote     9/16/14


You will respect yourself to the degree that you do not violate your own value system.

Self-respect is the most important respect I can earn.
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