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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on Today at 06:54:43 AM »
July 29 , 2014

Expectations

“As we realize our need to be forgiven, we tend to be more forgiving.”

Basic Text, p. 39

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Our behavior toward other people in our life is a mirror of our behavior toward ourselves.  When we demand perfection of ourselves, we come to demand it from others around us, too.  As we strive to repair and heal our lives in recovery, we may also expect others to work just as hard and to recover at the same pace as we do.  And just as we are often unforgiving of our own mistakes, we may shut out friends and family members when they don’t meet our expectations.

Working the steps helps us understand our own limitations and our humanity.  We come to see our failures as human mistakes.  We realize that we will never be perfect, that we will, at times, disappoint ourselves and others.  We hope for forgiveness.

As we learn to gently accept ourselves, we can start to view others with the same accepting and tolerant heart.  These people, too, are only human, trying to do their best and sometimes falling short.

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Just for today:  I will treat others with the tolerance and forgiveness I seek for myself.

Copyright © 1991-2014 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on Today at 06:53:20 AM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote   7/29/14


We do not believe in lemming recovery. Clement wrote 'faith must go hand in hand with inquiry.' If you do not 'get' something, ASK. Ask at meetings, ask a clean and sober friend, ask your sponsor, or ask your Higher Power in prayer.

The only stupid question is the one I don't ask.
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Elder's Meditation of the Day
« Last post by CD on Today at 06:51:55 AM »
Elder's Meditation of the Day July 29 , 2014
"When we want to talk to Him we burn tobacco and it takes our prayers all the way up to the Sky World."   
--Louis Farmer, ONONDAGA
Our herbs and our medicines are all here for the purpose of serving. Offering tobacco as a gift to the Creator is proper use of our medicine. In this way, we are able to communicate from the physical world to the spiritual world. Sometimes we have a hard time coming up with the right words when we pray, especially if we are really mixed up. The tobacco and the sage will take the intent to the spirit world. The meaning behind the words are more important the the words. The Creator always knows our intent. The tobacco helps us get to the Sky World.
Today, my Creator, I offer You this tobacco. I want to thank You for being in my life. I want to tell You how much I appreciate the honor of being here to serve You. Tell me this morning what I can do for You. You are the reason I live.

 
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Tuesday, July 29, 2014
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Have Some Fun

Have some fun. Loosen up a bit. Enjoy life!

We do not have to be so somber and serious. We do not have to be so reflective, so critical, so bound up within the rigid parameters and ourselves others, and often ourselves, have placed around us.

This is life, not a funeral service. Have some fun with it. Enter into it. Participate. Experiment. Take a risk. Be spontaneous. Do not always be so concerned about doing it right, doing the appropriate thing.

Do not always be so concerned about what others will think or say. What they think and say are their issues not ours. Do not be so afraid of making a mistake. Do not be so fearful and proper. Do not inhibit yourself so much.

God did not intend us to be so inhibited, so restricted, so controlled. These repressive parameters are what other people have imposed on us, what we have allowed to be done to us.

We were created fully human. We were given emotions, desires, hopes, dreams, and feelings. There is an alive, excited, fun loving child in us somewhere! Let it come out! Let it come alive! Let it have some fun - not just for two hours on Saturday evening. Bring it with us. Let it help us enjoy this gift of being alive, being fully human, and being who we are!

So many rules. So much shame we've lived with. It simply isn't necessary. We have been brainwashed. It is time now to free ourselves, let ourselves go, and enter fully human into a full life.

Don't worry. We will learn our lessons when necessary. We have learned discipline. We will not go awry. What will happen is that we will begin enjoying life. We will begin enjoying and experiencing our whole self. We can trust ourselves. We have boundaries now. We have our program for a foundation. We can afford to experiment and experience. We are in touch with our Higher Power and ourselves. We are being guided, but a frozen, inanimate object cannot be guided. it cannot even be moved.

Have some fun. Loosen up a bit. Break a few rules. God won't punish us. We do not have to allow people to punish us. And we can stop punishing ourselves. As long as we're here and alive, let's begin to live.

Today, I will let myself have some fun with life. I will loosen up a bit, knowing I won't crack and break. God, help me let go of my need to be so inhibited, proper, and repressed. Help me inject a big dose of life into myself by letting myself be fully alive and human.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of the publisher.
 
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on July 28, 2014, 08:10:55 AM »

July 28 , 2014

Secrets and intimacy

“We feared that if we ever revealed ourselves as we were, we would surely be rejected.”

Basic Text, p. 32

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Having relationships without barriers, ones in which we can be entirely open with our feelings, is something many of us desire.  At the same time, the possibility of such intimacy causes us more fear than almost any other situation in life.

If we examine what frightens us, we’ll usually find that we are attempting to hide an aspect of our personalities that we are ashamed of, an aspect we sometimes haven’t even admitted to ourselves.  We don’t want others to know of our insecurities, our pain, or our neediness, so we simply refuse to expose them.  We may imagine that if no one knows about our imperfections, those imperfections will cease to exist.

This is the point where our relationships stop.  Anyone who enters our lives will not get past the point at which our secrets begin.  To maintain intimacy in a relationship, it is essential that we acknowledge our defects and accept them.  When we do, the fortress of denial, erected to keep these things hidden, will come crashing down, enabling us to build up our relationships with others.

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Just for today:  I have opportunities to share my inner self.  I will take advantage of those opportunities and draw closer to those I love.

Copyright © 1991-2014 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on July 28, 2014, 08:09:56 AM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote   7/28/14


The Twelve Steps: One to Three: Clear up; Four to Nine: Clean up; Ten to Twelve: Contact up. These are also called the Foundation Steps, the Action Steps, and the Maintenance Steps respectively. Are you looking for something easier?

The easier, softer way is the Twelve Steps.
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Elder's Meditation of the Day
« Last post by CD on July 28, 2014, 08:09:07 AM »
Elder's Meditation of the Day     July 28 , 2014
"A good heart and a good mind - those are what you need to be a chief."   
--Louis Farmer, ONONDAGA
The combination of heart and mind is very powerful. The Medicine Wheel teaches that two worlds exist - the seen and the unseen. The seen world is the physical and the unseen is the spiritual world. Both of the worlds are necessary to discover true reality. The seen world is easiest seen by the male side. The unseen is easiest seen by the female side. The heart is the unseen and the mind is the seen. Blessed is the leader or person who has developed the heart and the mind. Truly, the person is of tremendous value to the Creator and the people.
My Great Spirit, help me this day to develop both my female side and my male side. Let me know all the feelings of each, let me develop and grow my intuition and my mind. Let my development only serve You.
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Monday, July 28, 2014
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Fear

One day, I decided to try something new. I took my ten-year-old son out on the St. Croix River on a Waverunner. A Waverunner is a small boating vehicle resembling a motorcycle.

We donned life jackets and embarked on an experience that turned out to be both exhilarating and frightening; exhilarating when I let myself enjoy it; frightening when I thought too much about what I was doing and all the terrible things that could happen.

Midway though our ride, my worst fear came true. We took a spill. We were floundering in thirty feet of water. The Waverunner was bobbing on the waves in front of me, like a motorized turtle on it back.

"Don't panic," my son said calmly.

"What if we drown?" I objected.

"We can't," he said. "We have life jackets on. See! We're floating."

"The machine is upside down," I said. "How are we going to turn it over?"

"Just like the man said," my son answered. "The arrow points this way."

With an easy gesture, we turned the machine right side up. "What if we can't climb back on?" I asked.

"We can," my son replied. "That's what Waverunners were made for: climbing on in the water."

I relaxed and as we drove off, I wondered why I had become so frightened. I thought maybe it's because I don't trust my ability to solve problems. Maybe it's because once I almost drowned when I wasn't wearing a life jacket.

But you didn't drown then either; a small voice inside reassured me. You survived.

Don't panic.

Problems were made to be solved. Life was made to be lived. Although sometimes we may be in over our heads - yes, we may even go under for a few moments and gulp a few mouthfuls of water, we won't drown. We're wearing - and always have been wearing - a life jacket. That support jacket is called "God."

Today, I will remember to take care of myself. When I get in over my head, God is there supporting me - even when my fears try to make me forget.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of the publisher.
 
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on July 27, 2014, 05:22:17 PM »
July 27 ,2014

We do recover

“After coming to NA, we found ourselves among a very special group of people who have suffered like us and found recovery.  In their experiences, freely shared, we found hope for ourselves.  If the program worked for them, it would work for us.”

Basic Text, p. 10

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A newcomer walks into his or her first meeting, shaking and confused.  People are milling about.  Refreshments and literature are set out.  The meeting starts after everyone has drifted over to their chairs and settled themselves in.  After taking a bewildered glance at the odd assortment of folks in the room, the newcomer asks, “Why should I bet my life on this group?  After all, they’re just a bunch of addicts like me.”

Though it may be true that not many of our members had much going for us when we got here, the newcomer soon learns that the way we are living today is what counts.  Our meetings are filled with addicts whose lives have turned completely around.  Against all odds, we are recovering.  The newcomer can relate to where we’ve been and draw hope from where we are now.  Today, every one of us has the opportunity to recover.

Yes, we can safely entrust our lives to our Higher Power and to Narcotics Anonymous.  So long as we work the program, the payoff is certain: freedom from active addiction and a better way of life.

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Just for today:  The recovery I’ve found in Narcotics Anonymous is a sure thing.  By basing my life on it, I know I will grow.

Copyright © 1991-2014 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on July 27, 2014, 05:21:13 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote   7/27/14


Unity in our program does not mean conformity. Unity means joining for a common purpose, despite our differences.

I can disagree without being disagreeable.
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