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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on September 16, 2014, 01:56:01 PM »

September 16 , 2014

Emotional balance

“Emotional balance is one of the first results of meditation, and our experience bears this out.”

Basic Text, p.47

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Though each of us defines “emotional balance” a little differently, all of us must find it.  Emotional balance can mean finding and maintaining a positive outlook on life, regardless of what may be happening around us.  To some, it might mean an understanding of our emotions that allows us to respond, not react, to our feelings.  It can mean that we experience our feelings as intensely as we can while also moderating their excessive expression.

Emotional balance comes with practice in prayer and meditation.  We get quiet and share our thoughts and hopes and concerns with the God of our understanding.  Then we listen for guidance, awaiting the power to act on that direction.

Eventually, our skills in maintaining near-balance get better, and the wild up-and-down emotional swings we used to experience begin to settle.  We develop an ability to let others feel their feelings; we have no need to judge them.  And we fully embrace our own personal range of emotions.

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Just for today:  Through regular prayer and meditation, I will discover what emotional balance means to me.

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on September 16, 2014, 01:55:03 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote     9/16/14


You will respect yourself to the degree that you do not violate your own value system.

Self-respect is the most important respect I can earn.
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Elder's Meditation of the Day
« Last post by CD on September 16, 2014, 01:54:03 PM »
Elder's Meditation of the Day      September 16 2014
"To me, the wisdom the Elders have to manifest is in teaching people how to live in harmony and balance with each other and the Earth."   
--Sun Bear, CHIPPEWA
You cannot give away what you don't have. You need to give away what you have in order to keep it. Our Elders have lived their lives with a lot of trial and error. They have experienced how to do things well and they have experienced what didn't work for them as they grew old. They know things about living that we don't know. So, through the years the Elders have gained wisdom. They usually have a whole different point of view because of all their experiences. There are two ways to learn. Someone tells us what they did and we do the same thing or someone tells us what they did and we choose not to do it. Both of these paths will help us to live.
My Creator, teach me about choices and decisions and consequences. Put an Elder in my life to guide me.
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go.
« Last post by CD on September 16, 2014, 01:52:57 PM »
Tuesday, September 16, 2014
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Revenge

No matter how long we've been recovering, no matter how solid our spiritual ground, we may still feel an overwhelming desire at times to punish, or get even, with another person.

We want revenge.

We want to see the other person hurt the way he or she has hurt us. We want to see life deal that person just rewards. In fact, we would like to help life out.

Those are normal feelings, but we do not have to act on them. These feelings are part of our anger but it's not our job to deal justice.

We can allow ourselves to feel the anger. It is helpful to go one step deeper and let ourselves feel the other feelings - the hurt, the pain, the anguish. But our goal is to release the feelings, and be finished with them.

We can hold the other person accountable. We can hold the other person responsible. But it is not our responsibility to be judge and jury. Actively seeking revenge will not help us. It will block us and hold us back.

Walk away. Stop playing the game. Unhook. Learn your lesson. Thank the other person for having taught you something valuable. And be finished with it. Put it behind, with the lesson intact.

Acceptance helps. So does forgiveness - not the kind that invites that person to use us again, but a forgiveness that releases the other person and sets him or her free to walk a separate path, while releasing our anger and resentments. That sets us free to walk our own path.

Today, I will be as angry as I need to be, with a goal of finishing my business with others. Once I have released my hurt and anger, I will strive for healthy forgiveness - forgiveness with boundaries. I understand that boundaries, coupled with forgiveness and compassion, will move me forward.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of the publisher.
 
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on September 15, 2014, 01:37:13 PM »
September 15 , 2014

Filling the emptiness

“...we think that if we can just get enough food, enough sex, or enough money, we’ll be satisfied and everything will be alright.”

Basic Text, p. 80

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In our addiction, we could never get enough drugs, or money, or sex, or anything else.  Even too much was never enough!  There was a spiritual emptiness inside us.  Though we tried as hard as we could to fill that emptiness ourselves, we never succeeded.  In the end, we realized that we lacked the power to fill it; it would take a Power greater than ourselves to do that.

So we stopped using, and we stopped trying to fill the emptiness in our gut with things.  We turned to our Higher Power, asking for its care, strength, and direction.  We surrendered and made way for that Power to begin the process of filling our inner void.  We stopped grabbing things and started receiving the free gift of love our Higher Power had for us.  Slowly, our inner emptiness was being filled.

Now that we’ve been given our Higher Power’s gift of love, what do we do with it?  If we clasp that gift tightly to ourselves, we will smother it.  We must remember that love grows only when it is shared.  We can only keep this gift by freely giving it away.  The world of addiction is a world of taking and being taken; the world of recovery is a world of giving and being given.  In which world do we choose to live?

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Just for today:  I choose to live in the fullness of recovery.  I will celebrate my conscious contact with the God of my understanding by freely sharing with others that which has been freely shared with me.

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on September 15, 2014, 01:36:09 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote     9/15/14


Egotism is that certain something that enables a man in a rut to think he's in a groove.

I am never in a rut when I can answer this question, 'What Step am I working now?'
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Elder's Meditation of the Day
« Last post by CD on September 15, 2014, 01:35:16 PM »
Elder's Meditation of the Day      September 15,2014
"Knowledge is a beautiful thing, but the use of knowledge in a good way is what makes for wisdom. Learning how to use knowledge in a sacred manner, that's wisdom to me. And to me, that's what a true Elder is."   
--Sun Bear, CHIPPEWA
We grow in wisdom by developing ourselves according to the four directions of the Medicine Wheel - emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. Let's say we started drinking and drugging in our teenage years. Our emotional development will stop, but we will grow older physically. We could then develop into an immature adult. As adults we might be acting like we were teenagers. Once we stop drinking or drugging, our emotional development will begin again. We need to grow and nurture ourselves in all four directions. We need to involve the Great Spirit's guidance in our development. That's the only way we become wise individuals and live our lives in harmony and in a sacred way.
Oh Great Spirit, guide my thinking today. Let me walk in a sacred way on the Red Road. Let me be a learner of lessons and give me Your greatest gift - wisdom!

 
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go.
« Last post by CD on September 15, 2014, 01:34:07 PM »
Monday, September 15, 2014
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Getting Through Hard Times

We are sturdy beings. But in many ways, we are fragile. We can accept change and loss, but this comes at our own pace and in our own way. And only God and we can determine the timing.
  —Codependent No More

Hard times, stressful times, are not all there is to life, but they are part of life, growth, and moving forward.

What we do with hard times, or hard energy, is our choice.

We can use the energy of hard times to work out, and work through, our issues. We can use it to fine-tune our skills and our spirituality. Or we can go through these situations suffering, storing up bitterness, and refusing to grow or change.

Hard times can motivate and mold us to bring out our best. We can use these times to move forward and upward to higher levels of living, loving, and growth.

The choice is ours. Will we let ourselves feel? Will we take a spiritual approach, including gratitude, toward the event? Will we question life and our Higher Power by asking what we're supposed to be learning and doing? Or will we use the incident to prove old, negative beliefs? Will we say, "Nothing good ever happens to me... I'm just a victim... People can't be trusted... Life isn't worth living"?

We do not always require hard energy, or stress, to motivate us to grow and change. We do not have to create stress, seek it, or attract it. But if it's there, we can learn to channel it into growth and use it for achieving what's good in life.

God, let my hard times be healing times.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of the publisher.
 
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on September 13, 2014, 02:28:57 PM »

September 13 , 2014

Something different

“We had to have something different, and we thought we had found it in drugs.”

Basic Text, p. 13

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Many of us have always felt different from other people.  We know we’re not unique in feeling that way; we hear many addicts share the same thing.  We searched all our lives for something to make us all right, to fix that “different” place inside us, to make us whole and acceptable.  Drugs seemed to fill that need.  When we were high, at least we no longer felt the emptiness or the need.  There was one drawback:  The drugs, which were our solution, quickly became our problem.

Once we gave up the drugs, the sense of emptiness returned.  At first we felt despair because we didn’t have any solution of our own to that miserable longing.  But we were willing to take direction and began to work the steps.  As we did, we found what we’d been looking for, that “something different.”  Today, we believe that our lifelong yearning was primarily for knowledge of a Higher Power; the “something different” we needed was a relationship with a loving God.  The steps tell us how to begin that relationship.

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Just for today:  My Higher Power is the “something different” that’s always been missing in my life.  I will use the steps to restore that missing ingredient to my spirit.

Copyright © 1991-2014 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on September 13, 2014, 02:28:01 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote     9/13/14


'If you understand, things are just as they are; if you do not understand, things are just as they are.'~ Zen Proverb

I don't have to understand how the Steps work, just that they do.
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