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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on August 24, 2014, 04:45:20 PM »
August 24, 2014

Seeking God's will

“We learn to be careful of praying for specific things.”

Basic Text, p. 46

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In our active addiction, we usually did not pray for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry it out.  On the contrary, most of our prayers were for God to get us out of the mess we had made for ourselves.  We expected miracles on demand.  That kind of thinking and praying changes when we begin practicing the Eleventh Step.  The only way out of the trouble we have made for ourselves is through surrender to a Power greater than ourselves.

In recovery, we learn acceptance.  We seek knowledge in our prayers and meditation of how we are to greet the circumstances that come our way.  We stop fighting, surrender our own ideas of how things should be, ask for knowledge, and listen for the answers.  The answers usually won’t come in a flash of white light accompanied by a drum roll.  Usually, the answers will come merely with a quiet sense of assurance that our lives are on course, that a Power greater than ourselves is guiding us on our paths.

We have a choice.  We can spend all our time fighting to make things come out our way, or we can surrender to God’s will.  Peace can be found in accepting the ebb and flow of life.

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Just for today:  I will surrender my expectations, look to my Higher Power for guidance, and accept life.

Copyright © 1991-2014 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on August 24, 2014, 04:44:23 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote     8/24/14


Sporadically, even with a strong program, you may feel spiritually dead or emotionally empty. We're addicts, it happens! No matter how dead or empty you sometimes feel, this too shall pass.

It came to pass it didn't come to stay.
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Elder's Meditation of the Day
« Last post by CD on August 24, 2014, 04:43:15 PM »
Elder's Meditation of the Day         August 24, 2014
"The mind's eye changes the way we judge things."   
--Fools Crow, LAKOTA
"What you see is what you get." Our head has inside it a movie projector that projects out from our foreheads and shines on a screen a picture of our true thoughts. This is our reality. We can only see what we project (our beliefs). If we believe someone is a jerk, every time we see them we reflect our beliefs about what we think about that person and that is all we can see. Even if someone tells us this person is a kind, loving, caring, intelligent individual, we wouldn't be able to see it. If we change our belief about them, that person will change and so will our judgment about that person.
My Creator, let me realize the power of choice. Let me see the advantages of changing my beliefs. Today, if I am judging my brother, let me change my beliefs to acceptance. If my thoughts are of anger, let me change them to love. Let my eyes only see you in everything and every person.

 
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Sunday, August 24, 2014
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Step Eight

Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
  —Step Eight of Al-Anon

The Eighth Step is not meant to punish us; it is meant to set us free from guilt, anxiety, and discord.

We begin by making a list of everyone we have harmed on our journey, as we have struggled to survive. We have probably done more damage to ourselves than to anyone else, so we put ourselves first on the list.

Often, our tendency is to feel guilty about everything we've ever done, everyone we've come in contract with. That is unearned guilt. Writing helps us clarify whether or not we are punishing ourselves for no reason. But we need to be open to guidance as we work this Step, getting everything out of us and on to paper, so we can be healed.

Once we have made the list, we strive to become willing to make amends to everyone on it because that is how we heal. Making amends does not mean feeling guilty and ashamed and punishing ourselves; it means swallowing our pride and defenses, and doing what we can to take care of ourselves. We become ready to improve our self-esteem by taking responsibility for our behaviors. We become willing to have our relationships with ourselves, others, and our Higher Power restored.

Today, I will open myself to an honest understanding of the people I have harmed. God, help me let go of my defenses and pride. Help me become willing to make amends to those I have harmed, so that I can improve my relationships with others and myself.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of the publisher.
 
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on August 23, 2014, 09:54:11 AM »
August 23 , 2014

Decision-making

“Before we got clean, most of our actions were guided by impulse.  Today, we are not locked into this type of thinking.”

Basic Text, p. 90

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Life is a series of decisions, actions, and consequences.  When we were using, our decisions were usually driven by our disease, resulting in self-destructive actions and dire consequences.  We came to see decision-making as a rigged game, one we should play as little as possible.

Given that, many of us have great difficulty learning to make decisions in recovery.  Slowly, by working the Twelve Steps, we gain practice in making healthy decisions, ones that give positive results.  Where our disease once affected our will and our lives, we ask our Higher Power to care for us.  We inventory our values and our actions, check our findings with someone we trust, and ask the God of our understanding to remove our shortcomings.  In working the steps we gain freedom from the influence of our disease, and we learn principles of decision-making that can guide us in all our affairs.

Today, our decisions and their consequences need not be influenced by our disease.  Our faith gives us the courage and direction to make good decisions and the strength to act on them.  The result of that kind of decision-making is a life worth living.

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Just for today:  I will use the principles of the Twelve Steps to make healthy decisions.  I will ask my Higher Power for the strength to act on those decisions.

Copyright © 1991-2014 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on August 23, 2014, 09:53:13 AM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote     8/23/14


The birth of resentment is blame. Often from the center of your bad feelings you seek someone to blame and yet if you 'find' this someone, it can only serve to increase your misery. Blame increases misery because it gives you something to focus on again and again. 'Resentment' is from Latin, meaning to 'feel again.'

By eliminating blame, I don't allow 'them to live rent free in my head
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Elder's Meditation of the Day
« Last post by CD on August 23, 2014, 09:52:16 AM »
Elder's Meditation of the Day      August 23 , 2014
"They also learned, and perhaps this was the most important thing, how to look at things through the eyes of the Higher Powers."   
--Fools Crow, LAKOTA
Our eyes can only see our beliefs. Our beliefs cause us to make assumptions, draw conclusions, and cause confusion. Our five senses are very limiting. The Creator has a way of allowing us to see or know in the spiritual world. This is called the Sixth Sense. The Sixth Sense is like a radar system; our personal radar system. It will help us "see" opportunities and help us avoid disaster. This Sixth Sense is controlled by God. We must learn to listen to it. We must learn to trust it. We must learn to act on it even if our head says differently. We must learn to look at things through the eyes of God.
My Creator, guide me today. If my eyes cause confusion, let me close them and see through Your eyes. If my ears hear confusion, let me listen to my heart. Let me let You guide me.
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Saturday, August 23, 2014
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Self Care

When will we become lovable? When will we feel safe? When will we get all the protection, nurturing, and love we so richly deserve? We will get it when we begin giving it to ourselves.
  —Beyond Codependency

The idea of giving ourselves what we want and need can be confusing, especially if we have spent many years not knowing that it's okay to take care of ourselves. Taking our energy and focus off others and their responsibilities and placing that energy on to our responsibilities and ourselves is a recovery behavior that can be acquired. We learn it by daily practice.

We begin by relaxing, by breathing deeply, and letting go of our fears enough to feel as peaceful as we can. Then, we ask ourselves: What do I need to do to take care of myself today, or for this moment?

What do I need and want to do?

What would demonstrate love and self-responsibility?

Am I caught up in the belief that others are responsible for making me happy, responsible for me? Then the first thing I need to do is correct my belief system. I am responsible for myself.

Do I feel anxious and concerned about a responsibility I've been neglecting? Then perhaps I need to let go of my fears and tend to that responsibility.

Do I feel overwhelmed, out of control? Maybe I need to journey back to the first of the Twelve Steps.

Have I been working too hard? Maybe what I need to do is take some time off and do something fun.

Have I been neglecting my work on daily tasks? Then maybe what I need to do is get back to my routine.

There is no recipe, no formula, no guidebook for self care. We each have a guide, and that guide is within us. We need to ask the question: What do I need to do to take loving, responsible care of myself? Then, we need to listen to the answer. Self-care is not that difficult. The most challenging part is trusting the answer, and having the courage to follow through once we hear it.

Today, I will focus on taking care of myself. I will trust myself and my Higher Power to guide me in this process.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of the publisher.
 
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on August 22, 2014, 11:37:58 AM »

August 22 , 2014

Contribution

“We recognize our spiritual growth when we are able to reach out and help others.”

Basic Text, p. 58

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To make a difference in the world, to contribute something special, is perhaps the highest aspiration of the human heart.  Each one of us, no matter what our personal makeup, has a unique quality to offer.

Chances are that at some time in our recovery we met someone who reached us when no one else could.  Whether it was someone who made us laugh at our first meeting, a warm and compassionate sponsor, or an understanding friend who supported us through an emotional storm, that person made all the difference in the world.

All of us have had the gift of recovery shared with us by another recovering addict.  For that, we are grateful.  We express our gratitude by sharing freely with others what was given to us.  The individual message we carry may help a newcomer only we can reach.

There are many ways to serve our fellowship.  Each of us will find that we do some things better than others, but all service work is equally important.  If we are willing to serve, we’re sure to find that particular way to contribute that’s right for us.

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Just for today:  My contribution makes a difference.  I will offer a helping hand today.

Copyright © 1991-2014 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on August 22, 2014, 11:36:54 AM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote     8/22/14


Embrace all of your emotions for they are what make you, you. 'Hold them in an embrace of total acceptance and in that embrace you will not be agonized any more. Do you think the Christ never cried? Do you think the Buddha never ached? You are not going to be less human, you are going to be wholly human.' ~Bartholomew, I Come as a Brother

I become one with myself by embracing all of me, because I am all of me and I won't be less!
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