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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on July 25, 2014, 09:19:24 AM »
July 25 , 2014

Twelfth Step "failure"?

“Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.”

Step Twelve

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There is no such thing as a “failed” Twelfth Step call.  Even if our prospect doesn’t get clean, we have accomplished two purposes.  We have planted the seed of recovery in the mind of the addict with whom we have shared our experience, strength, and hope.  And we ourselves have stayed clean another day.  Rarely does a recovering addict leave a Twelve Step call with anything but a deep dose of gratitude.

Sometimes we are practicing the Twelfth Step without realizing it.  When our co-workers or other acquaintances know some of our history and see what kind of person we are today, they know where to go when they have a friend or loved one in need of our help.  We are often the best attraction that NA has to offer!

For many addicts, the Twelfth Step is the cornerstone of recovery.  We truly believe that “we can only keep what we have by giving it away.”  The paradox of the Twelfth Step is evident, for in giving, we receive.

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Just for today:  I will remember that I am a living example of the Twelfth Step.  I cannot “fail” when I try to carry the message to another addict.

Copyright © 1991-2014 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on July 25, 2014, 09:18:33 AM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote     7/25/14


Like the song says, 'I'll bet you think this song is about you? You need to get over yourself if you want to get over feeling sorry for yourself.

They're just doing it; they're not doing it to me.
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Elder's Meditation of the Day
« Last post by CD on July 25, 2014, 09:17:31 AM »
Elder's Meditation of the Day       July 25 ,2014
"People need to wake up. They can't hear God's voice if they're asleep."   
--Vernon Cooper, LUMBEE
Black Elk, a Sioux, talks about the hoop of many hoops. He says that above the people is a hoop, a conscience, the total belief of the people. If the hoop is sick, meaning dysfunctional, co-dependent, a lot of alcoholism, family abuse, violence, racism and sexual abuse, the people can get used to this and think this is normal. In other words, the people are asleep. If we have left the spiritual way of life, the people are asleep. If we are giving our power to another entity, the people are asleep. In most tribes, there are Coyote Clans. The job of the Coyote Clan people is to wake the people up. They need to become a nuisance and irritate the people. We must return to the spiritual walk.
Oh Great Spirit, keep me awake today. Let me hear the voices of our ancestors...let me hear the voices of the Grandfathers. Because everybody is doing it doesn't make things right. Let me hear the truth today and become a coyote for the people. Give me the courage to be willing to be different. Let me walk straight on the Red Road.

 
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Friday, July 25, 2014
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Keep at It

Keep practicing your recovery behaviors, even when they feel awkward, even when they haven't quite taken yet, even if you don't get it yet.

Sometimes it takes years for a recovery concept to move from our mind into our heart and soul. We need to work at recovery behaviors with the diligence, effort, and repeated practice we applied to codependent behaviors. We need to force ourselves to do things even when they don't feel natural. We need to tell ourselves we care about ourselves and can take care of ourselves even when we don't believe what we're saying.

We need to do it, and do it, and do it - day after day, year after year.

It is unreasonable to expect this new way of life to sink in overnight. We may have to "act as if" for months, years, before recovery behaviors become ingrained and natural.

Even after years, we may find ourselves, in times of stress or duress, reverting to old ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving.

We may have layers of feelings we aren't ready to acknowledge until years into our recovery. That's okay! When it's time, we will.

Do not give up! It takes time to get self-love into the core of us. It takes repeated practice. Time and experience. Lessons, lessons, and more lessons.

Then, just when we think we've arrived, we find we have more to learn.

That's the joy of recovery. We get to keep learning and growing all of our life!

Keep on taking care of yourself, no matter what. Keep on plugging away at recovery behaviors, one day at a time. Keep on loving yourself, even when it doesn't feel natural. Act as if for as long as necessary, even if that time period feels longer than necessary.

One day, it will happen. You will wake up, and find that what you've been struggling with and working so hard at and forcing yourself to do, finally feels comfortable. It has hit our soul.

Then, you go on to learn something new and better.

Today, I will plug away at my recovery behaviors, even if they don't feel natural. I will force myself to go through the motions even if that feels awkward. I will work at loving myself until I really do.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of the publisher.
 
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on July 23, 2014, 12:36:57 PM »
July 23 , 2014

Surrendering self-will

“We want and demand that things always go our way.  We should know from our past experience that our way of doing things did not work.”

Basic Text, p. 93

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All of us have ideas, plans, goals for our lives.  There’s nothing in the NA program that says we shouldn’t think for ourselves, take initiative, and put responsible plans into action.  It’s when our lives are driven by self-will that we run into problems.

When we are living willfully, we go beyond thinking for ourselves—we think only of ourselves.  We forget that we are but a part of the world and that whatever personal strength we have is drawn from a Higher Power.  We might even go so far as to imagine that other people exist solely to do our bidding.  Quickly, we find ourselves at odds with everyone and everything around us.

At this point, we have two choices.  We can continue in our slavery to self-will, making unreasonable demands and becoming frustrated because the planet doesn’t spin our way.  Or we can surrender, relax, seek knowledge of God’s will and the power to carry that out, and find our way back to a condition of peace with the world.  Thinking, taking initiative, making responsible plans—there’s nothing wrong with these things, so long as they serve God’s will, not merely our own.

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Just for today:  I will plan to do God’s will, not mine.  If I find myself at odds with everything around me, I will surrender self-will.

Copyright © 1991-2014 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on July 23, 2014, 12:35:36 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote    7/23/14


'Each place along the way is somewhere you had to be to be here. ~Wayne Dyer

I cannot get ahead until I learn to be here.
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Elder's Meditation of the Day
« Last post by CD on July 23, 2014, 12:34:37 PM »
Elder's Meditation of the Day     July 23 , 2014
"...the greatest strength is in gentleness."   
--Leon Shenandoah, ONONDAGA
Our Elders have taught us many lessons about becoming a Warrior and how to think and act like one. We have been told about the power of gentleness. We have been told about the power of the stillness. Physical power is about effort. Mental power is the opposite. It's about being effortless or less any effort. Gentleness is one of the greatest attributes of the Warrior and one of the greatest mental powers. It takes a lot of love to be gentle. Gentleness is not an ego word. Gentleness is the weapon of the Great Spirit.
My Creator, today I will be gentle with myself and with others. I will listen to the whisper of my heart and learn the power of being gentle.

 
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Wednesday, July 23, 2014
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Making It Happen

Stop trying so hard to make it happen.

Stop doing so much, if doing so much is wearing you out or not achieving the desired results. Stop thinking so much and so hard about it. Stop worrying so about it. Stop trying to force, to manipulate, to coerce, or to make it happen.

Making things happen is controlling. We can take positive action to help things happen. We can do our part. But many of us do much more than our part. We overstep the boundaries from caring and doing our part into controlling, caretaking, and coercing.

Controlling is self-defeating. It doesn't work. By overextending ourselves to make something happen, we may actually be stopping it from happening.

Do your part in relaxed, peaceful harmony. Then let it go. Just let it go. Force yourself to let it go, if necessary. "Act as if." Put as much energy into letting go as you have into trying to control. You'll get much better results.

It may not happen. It may not happen the way we wanted it to and hoped it would. But our controlling wouldn't have made it happen either.

Learn to let things happen because that's what they'll do anyway. And while we're waiting to see what happens, we'll be happier and so will those around us.

Today, I will stop forcing things to happen. Instead, I will allow things to happen naturally. If I catch myself trying to force events or control people, I will stop and figure out a way to detach.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of the publisher.
 
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NA Service talk / Re: Service System Poem , Can't We All Just Get Along
« Last post by Monkey on July 22, 2014, 11:38:25 PM »
Go for it
I always try to backlink it to the original site,
like in the site,with his signature and

navoices.com/

Glad you are here.
How long you been around?
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NA Service talk / Re: Service System Poem , Can't We All Just Get Along
« Last post by iou1na on July 22, 2014, 11:07:15 PM »
Love the Warning I got before typing here. I KNOW it has been a while before Kevin posted his poem, but, hey, I'm slow...

Kevin, if u are here or not, I am going to post this amazing piece of poetry onto my web page. I usually ask first, but hey, it has been 3+ years, so...

Thank You!!! I hope / wish that more in my Area could read this. It says one frak of a lot.
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