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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on August 11, 2015, 02:09:18 PM »

August 11 , 2015

Active listening

“Through active listening, we hear things that work for us.”

Basic Text, p. 102

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Most of us arrived in Narcotics Anonymous with a very poor ability to listen.  But to take full advantage of “the therapeutic value of one addict helping another,” we must learn to listen actively.

What is active listening for us?  In meetings, it means we concentrate on what the speaker is sharing, while the speaker is sharing.  We set aside our own thoughts and opinions until the meeting is over.  That’s when we sort through what we’ve heard to decide which ideas we want to use and which we want to explore further.

We can apply our active listening skills in sponsorship, too.  Newcomers often talk with us about some “major event” in their lives.  While such events may not seem significant to us, they are to the newcomer who has little experience living life on life’s terms.  Our active listening helps us empathize with the feelings such events trigger in our sponsee’s life.  With that understanding, we have a better idea of what to share with them.

The ability to listen actively was unknown to us in the isolation of our addiction.  Today, this ability helps us actively engage with our recovery.  Through active listening, we receive everything being offered us in NA, and we share fully with others the love and care we’ve been given.

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Just for today:  I will strive to be an active listener.  I will practice active listening when others share and when I share with others.

Copyright © 1991-2015 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on August 11, 2015, 02:08:04 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote       8/11/15


If you have never experienced the results of working the Twelve Steps, no explanation is sufficient. If you have experienced the results of working the Twelve Steps, then no explanation is necessary.

I am the poster child for the miracles I cannot explain.
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on August 10, 2015, 07:03:12 PM »
August 10 , 2015

Regular prayer and meditation

“Most of us pray when we are hurting. We learn that if we pray regularly, we won’t be hurting as often or as intensely.”

Basic Text, p. 44

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Regular prayer and meditation are two more key elements in our new pattern of living.  Our active addiction was more than just a bad habit waiting to be broken by force of will.  Our addiction was a negative, draining dependence that stole all our positive energy.  That dependence was so total, it prevented us from developing any kind of reliance on a Higher Power.

From the very beginning of our recovery, our Higher Power has been the force that’s brought us freedom.  First, it relieved us of our compulsion to keep taking drugs, even when we knew they were killing us.  Then, it gave us freedom from the more deeply ingrained aspects of our disease.  Our Higher Power gave us the direction, the strength, and the courage to inventory ourselves; to admit out loud to another person what our lives had been like, perhaps for the first time; to begin seeking release from the chronic defects of character underlying our troubles; and, at last, to make amends for the wrongs we’d done.

That first contact with a Higher Power, and that first freedom, has grown into a life full of freedom.  We maintain that freedom by maintaining and improving our conscious contact with our Higher Power through regular prayer and meditation.

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Just for today:  I will make a commitment to include regular prayer and meditation in my new pattern of living.

Copyright © 1991-2015 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on August 10, 2015, 07:01:51 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote                8/10/15


We find that the smallest deed is better than the grandest intention.

My actions speak louder than words. What are my actions saying now?
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on August 09, 2015, 04:25:02 PM »

August 9 , 2015

The Power of love

“We begin to see that God’s love has been present all the time, just waiting for us to accept it.”

Basic Text, p. 46

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God’s love is the transforming power that drives our recovery.  With that love, we find freedom from the hopeless, desperate cycle of using, self-hatred, and more using.  With that love, we gain a sense of reason and purpose in our once purposeless lives.  With that love, we are given the inner direction and strength we need to begin a new way of life: the NA way.  With that love, we begin to see things differently, as if with new eyes.

As we examine our lives through the eyes of love, we make what may be a startling discovery:  The loving God we’ve so recently come to understand has always been with us and has always loved us.  We recall the times when we asked for the aid of a Higher Power and were given it.  We even recall times when we didn’t ask for such help, yet were given it anyway.  We realize that a loving Higher Power has cared for us all along, preserving our lives till the day when we could accept that love for ourselves.

The Power of love has been with us all along.  Today, we are grateful to have survived long enough to become consciously aware of that love’s presence in our world and our lives.  Its vitality floods our very being, guiding our recovery and showing us how to live.

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Just for today:  I accept the love of a Higher Power in my life.  I am conscious of that Power’s guidance and strength within me.  Today, I claim it for my own.

Copyright © 1991-2015 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on August 09, 2015, 04:23:50 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote    8/9/15


'Forgiveness is not an occasional act; it is a permanent attitude.
 ~Martin Luther King.
Undoubtedly, there are many on your list to forgive. There is only one whom you must forgive that is yourself.'

Because my Higher Power forgives me, I forgive myself.
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on August 08, 2015, 05:19:45 PM »
August 8 , 2015

Responsible recovery

“...we accept responsibility for our problems and see that we’re equally responsible for our solutions.”

Basic Text, p. 94

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Some of us, well accustomed to leaving our personal responsibilities to others, may attempt the same behavior in recovery.  We quickly find out it doesn’t work.

For instance, we are considering making a change in our lives, so we call our sponsor and ask what we should do.  Under the guise of seeking direction, we are actually asking our sponsor to assume responsibility for making decisions about our life.  Or maybe we’ve been short with someone at a meeting, so we ask that person’s best friend to make our apologies for us.  Perhaps we’ve imposed on a friend several times in the last month to cover our service commitment.  Could it be that we’ve asked a friend to analyze our behavior and identify our shortcomings, rather than taking our own personal inventory?

Recovery is something that has to be worked for.  It isn’t going to be handed to us on a silver platter, nor can we expect our friends or our sponsor to be responsible for the work we must do ourselves.  We recover by making our own decisions, doing our own service, and working our own steps.  By doing it for ourselves, we receive the rewards.

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Just for today:  I accept responsibility for my life and my recovery.

Copyright © 1991-2015 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on August 08, 2015, 05:18:49 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote     8/8/15


Our lives become very different once we learn to magnify our blessings the way we have our troubles.

What I think about enlarges. Am I enlarging my blessings or my troubles?
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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Just For Today
« Last post by CD on August 07, 2015, 10:32:13 PM »
August 7 , 2015

The gratitude list

“We focus on anything that isn’t going our way and ignore all the beauty in our lives.”

Basic Text, p. 77

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It’s easy to be grateful when everything runs smoothly.  If we get a raise at work, we’re grateful.  If we get married, we’re grateful.  If someone surprises us with a nice present or an unasked favor, we’re grateful.  But if we get fired, divorced, or disappointed, gratitude flies out the window.  We find ourselves becoming obsessed with the things that are wrong, even though everything else may be wonderful.

This is where we can use a gratitude list.  We sit down with a pen and paper and list the people for whom we are grateful.  We all have people who’ve supported us through life’s upheavals.  We list the spiritual assets we have attained, for we know we could never make it through our present circumstances without them.  Last, but not least, we list our recovery itself.  Whatever we have that we are grateful for goes on the list.

We’re sure to find that we have literally hundreds of things in our lives that inspire our gratitude.  Even those of us who are suffering from an illness or who have lost all material wealth will find blessings of a spiritual nature for which we can be thankful.  An awakening of the spirit is the most valuable gift an addict can receive.

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Just for today:  I will write a list of things, both material and spiritual, for which I am grateful.

Copyright © 1991-2015 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved

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Meditations and ponderings / Re: Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote
« Last post by CD on August 07, 2015, 10:31:04 PM »
Pocket Sponsor - Book - Quote     8/7/15


Who knows why they are chemically dependent? The answer will not change the fact, and yet many continue to question, why? Indeed, they need an answer, but they are asking the wrong question. The real question is, 'How can I become free? Free of the fear. Free of the pain. Free of the bondage.

I do not receive the right answer when I ask the wrong question.
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