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Re: If you baby them, you bury them."
« Reply #2 on: May 04, 2011, 11:49:53 AM »
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If you baby them, you bury them."
« Reply #1 on: May 03, 2011, 04:56:53 PM »
"If you baby them, you bury them."
People in recovery are a stubborn lot, used to running their lives on massive amounts of self will fueled by old ideas. It's hard for us to take direction and "rebellion dogs our every step." We are constantly looking for a way around things, and I'm reminded of the story of when W.C. Fields, lying on his deathbed, was asked why he was only now reading the Bible. "I'm looking for the loopholes," was his reply. Boy can I relate.
The first question my sponsor asked me when we began working together was, "Are you willing to go to any lengths to get this?" I was able to answer yes because I had reached bottom and it was my desperation that gave me the willingness to follow his suggestions and direction. He was firm with me, and I learned about contrary action very quickly. Learning to follow his direction rather than my will saved my life.
I've sponsored a lot of guys over the years and my experience has taught me that those I have to baby or make 'lite' suggestions too are simply not ready to go to any lengths. They are the ones who don't get this and some have gone out and dug their own graves. Only when you are through looking for the loopholes do you have a chance to recover.
And it's my job as sponsor to make that perfectly clear